4 important questions to ask in a relationship to improve understanding

Great understanding of a relationship is very important for everyone in a relationship. The only way to know someone better is by asking questions. For a couple of people in a relationship to build a great understanding, it is advisable that these questions be asked;



1. "What do you find hard to talk about with me?"
For many reasons, many couples find it hard to open up on certain issues that touch their lives. In order to build trust and openness, it is advisable to ask what these things are and why they find it hard talking about them.
Their answers might be strange but you have to accept that that's what they actually are.



2. "What do you think about our relationship?"
This is a better approach to get to know what your partner has in mind about you and the relationship.
It is sometimes hard to directly ask your partner how much they love you but with this question, it is simple to know what they actually feel.



3. "How close are you with your family?"
Asking someone about their family and how they relate to them is a great way to express your urge to build a strong togetherness.
Additionally, this has been found to build trust and emotional intimacy.



4. "What would you want to change about me or yourself?"
This question is usually asked with an aim of knowing whether your partner recognises their bad sides and whether they would love to change them.
Similarly, they would point to your bad sides and change you or ask you to change on that.

Meet The Nigerian Woman Whose Womb Has Produced A President, Vice President, A Minister And Wives Of Governors

The woman pictured left is Hajia Dada Yar’Adua, the matriach of the Yar’Adua family. She was married to Musa Yar’Adua, a former Minister.


Her son, Shehu Musa Yaradua, was Vice President from 1979-1981. Another son of hers, Umaru Musa Yaradua, was Governor of Katsina State for 8 years 1999-2007, and later President of Nigeria 2007-2009 when he died.
Her grandson, Alh. Murtala Shehu Yaradua, was a Minister between 2009-2011. Three of her granddaughters were wives of Governors of three different states.

Amazing! Such a blessed woman.

9 odd but effective ways to stop snoring

If you're not quit ready for oral devices or losing weigh, there are some weird but effective snoring solutions from Sambataro and other sleep experts:

1. Sleep on a tennis ball . Lying on your back when you sleep puts greater pressure on your throat, so shifting to your side may work to quiet loud snoring, Dr. M. Safwan Badr, president of the American Academy of Sleep Medicine, told Huffington Post. To improve your odds of actually staying asleep on your side, sew a tennis ball into the front pocket of an old t-shirt, then wear the shirt backwards to bed. This should make it super uncomfortable to lie on your back once you drift off. Once you've adjusted to the new sleep position (and stopped snoring), you can ditch the uncomfy shirt.
2. Using a full body pillow may also help with snoring. Photo: Contributed by vailrealtynj.com/For the AJC
3. Buy a longer pillow  . According to Reader's Digest, a full-length body pillow can help you adjust to sleeping on your side.
4. Do tongue aerobics . Sounds a little odd, and you may not want an audience, but strengthening your tongue and the facial muscles you use to chew and swallow with exercises known as "myofunctional therapy" can work wonders with snoring, according to Sambataro. "Muscle weakness within the tongue, mouth, and upper throat may lead to snoring and obstructive sleep apnea," he says.
5. Change out your pillows . No, you're not trying to re-decorate the snoring away. Instead, you're after the allergens in your bedroom and in your pillow that may contribute to snoring. "If you feel fine during the day but obstructed at night, these things may be contributing to your snoring," Sambataro says. "Everyone should evaluate whether your pillows are creating some nasal congestion due to a reaction to the material."
6. Pop a bit of peppermint . A drop or two of peppermint oil rubbed around your nose may be able to open nasal passages, and peppermint mouthwash could shrink throat tissue that contributes to snoring, according to RD.
7. Mix mint into the humidifier . If you have the option to use a humidifier at night, bump your odds of opening your nasal passages by adding a few drops of peppermint oil to the water, RD suggested.
8. Combat snoring with a nose cone. Sambataro also suggests nose cones you place in each nostril to expand it. "This technique has a similar effect as strips, without the irritation of removing them in the morning," he notes.
9. Nod off after nasal sprays . With regular use, sprays will help get rid of the bacteria and fungus that produce mucous and eventually obstruct the nasal airway, Sambataro noted.

Questions to Ask About Quirks (sometimes best conversations happen from the simplest questions.)

Questions to Ask About Quirks

Does your lover have quirks you don't know about? Do you have quirks you want him or her to know? These are questions about the little things you may or may not have observed. Sometimes the best conversations happen from the simplest questions. Take time getting to know your lover or a potential lover better.

1. Do you have to have your closet doors open or closed when you go to sleep?

2. Have you ever taken bottles of shampoo or conditioner from a hotel?

3. Do you sleep with your legs tucked under the blankets or one foot out?

4. Have you ever stolen anything before?

5. Would you rather be attacked by a grizzly or a nest of hornets?

6. Have you ever counted your steps while you walk?

7. Do you ever dance even if there's no music playing?

8. Do you watch cartoons?

9. If you had to bury treasure where would you hide it?

10. What is your spirit animal ?